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being unmarried is punishment from Allah


I am 45 years old never married female.follow Islam with all my heart. Unfortunately after praying a lot I did not got married more unfortunately I was raped at the age of 40
Is this a punishment from Allah
I couldn’t understand please help


Salaamun alaykum
Thank you for your question.
I deeply sympathise with your situation. I can imagine how difficult it must have been to go through this trauma.
I would like to begin by saying that this world is meant to be entwined with difficulties and hardships. If there were no difficulties in this world, life would have been meaningless.

الَّذِي خَلَقَ الْمَوْتَ وَالْحَيَاةَ لِيَبْلُوَكُمْ أَيُّكُمْ أَحْسَنُ عَمَلًا ۚ وَهُوَ الْعَزِيزُ الْغَفُورُ
He, who created death and life that He may test you [to see] which of you is best in conduct. And He is the All-mighty, the All-forgiving. (Sura mulk:2)
There are a few reasons why we are put through difficulties in this world:
1- first reason could be because He wants to test us and spiritually uplift us; one has the opportunity to become spiritually stronger through tests and difficulties. And He has promised great reward for those who pass these tests
2- second could be because He wants to clean us of our sins . He loves us so much that He puts us through difficulties in this world and cleanses us so we do not have to bear the punishment in the hereafter. So sometimes we go through difficulties and face the consequences of our own mistakes and wrongdoings.
3- third reason why we could go through difficulties is because of other people’s mistakes. This world is a world of cause and effect. Allah has granted us with freewill to a certain extent. And sometimes because of our wrong decisions, other people around us tend to suffer and they are certainly answerable for this.

But we have to always keep in mind that Allah (swt) loves His believers and is always watching over them and is never negligent of them. If we believe this whole heartedly, we will never lose hope during difficulties.
There is a beautiful hadith from the Holy Prophet ( saw ) who has said: “أن الله يلغذي عبده المومن بالبلاد كما تغذي الوالدة ولدها باللبن”
“God feeds his believing servant with difficulties and hardships, just like a mother feeds her child with milk”

So a mother feeds the child so he should grow strong, likewise Allah puts us through difficulties so our faith should become stronger and hence get closer to Him.

And about not getting married, it is not in your hands so it is not your fault because you wanted to get married, but things did not work out; so at this point being patient is the best option just like it has come in sura nur verse 33
وَلْيَسْتَعْفِفِ الَّذِينَ لَا يَجِدُونَ نِكَاحًا حَتَّىٰ يُغْنِيَهُمُ اللَّهُ مِنْ فَضْلِهِ
And let those who do not find the means to marry keep chaste until Allah makes them free from want out of His grace.
InshaAllah praying and hoping Allah gives you the strength to overcome these difficult times for after every diffuculty comes ease.

فَإِنَّ مَعَ الْعُسْرِ يُسْرًا
Surely with difficulty is ease.(sura inshiraah verse5)

رَبَّنَا أَفْرِغْ عَلَيْنَا صَبْرًا وَثَبِّتْ أَقْدَامَنَا وَانْصُرْنَا عَلَى الْقَوْمِ الْكَافِرِينَ

Our Lord, pour down upon us patience, and make our steps firm and assist us against the unbelieving people.(sura baqarah verse250)
In the end, Please bear in mind that this is Not a punishment from Allah. The person who committed this injustice against you has done an evil act and should be punished by the law (Country law) and According to Shariah as well. Let alone his eternal punishment by Allah (az)

May Allah keep you successful
AAA under the guidance of Zahra Davdani