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Any Quran verses that help My wife to get rid of old love thoughts


Assalam o alaikum Mr. Alim,
I am in a very much pain, I married to a girl with the concent of our parents and she was the one with whom I love but she never loved me before marriage. Now it’s been 4 years she did a lot of efforts to love me but she always fails because before marriage she was engaged to her cousin for 4 years but their engagement was broken due to family reasons, I treat my wife the way Our Beloved Prophet Muhammad P.B.U.H ordered us to do, we are very much good friends and now she told me that she is in a great pain that she can’t help her self to forget him, can you please tell me any wazeefa or Quran’s ayat so that I recite it on my behalf and that help my wife to get rid of old love thoughts. Please help me.


Salaamun alaykum
Thank you for your email.
It is very virtuous of you to treat your wife the way Allah(swt) and His Prophet please. All i can say is that you can pray to Allah (swt) and ask Him to help her and give her the strength and willpower to get through this difficult phase, you can place the masumeen as intermediaries and ask them to pray for her.
But for her to get through this, dua and prayers are very important but not enough, she has to want to forget and get over her past relationship. She herself has to feel the need and realise her mistake and then ask Allah(swt) for help and surely He helps those who help themselves.
For her to realise, it is important for someone whom she trusts to have a good talk with her, be it you or a close family or friend or a scholar. It is necessary to make her realise that :

1-Allah has blessed her with a loving husband and that she should be thankful to Him as many women do not have caring and loving partners. And if she wants to attain Allah’s pleasure, she should be thankful of the blessings that He has bestowed upon her.

2- Allah (swt) wants the best for us in life, so we should learn how to accept Allah’s decree and be pleased with it because there is good in it even though we do not realise it.

وَعَسَىٰ أَنْ تَكْرَهُوا شَيْئًا وَهُوَ خَيْرٌ لَكُمْ ۖ وَعَسَىٰ أَنْ تُحِبُّوا شَيْئًا وَهُوَ شَرٌّ لَكُمْ ۗ وَاللَّهُ يَعْلَمُ وَأَنْتُمْ لَا تَعْلَمُونَ
Yet it may be that you dislike something, which is good for you, and it may be that you love something, which is bad for you, and Allah knows and you do not know.(sura baqarah:216)

3- if she had got married to her cousin, she might not have been happy, so maybe it was for the best that they never got married. Love maybe important in a marriage but it is not enough, there are more important things (like respect, having fear of Allah…) for a couple to have a successful marriage. Being stuck in the past is spoiling her life and the life of people around her, and she will be answerable for this in the hereafter.

4- there is no point regretting about things that you do not and will not be abe to have in life. She has to learn how to concentrate on her present life and appreciate what Allah has given her, and get the best out of it which will insha Allah lead to her prosperity in this world and in the hereafter.

Zahra Davdani