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Am I obliged to tell my wife about my past sins


Salam Sheikh
There is a question I want to ask and its troubling me alot. I have been married for about 8 years and things are going really well. There was however a period when my wife was going through some changes in her body cycle and our intimate relation ship was not there for a good few months.
In some moments of weakness I went to a massage parlour 3 times in the space of 1-2 months where I recieved massages by women etc but no act of sexual intercourse took place at all but there was body to body contact , hands etc but no sexual intercourse at all.
I have since this grave mistake repented sincerely and not returned to these haram places, is my repentence enough or do I need to tell my wife about this huge mistake. I am worried it may affect our marraige and I have a son as well. I have changed my life and have never returned to these places.
Is it ok for me to hide my sin and not tell my wife?


Waalykum salam

Thank you for your Question

A persons sins are something that he needs to confess for, to the Almighty alone  and repent over it. One of the main condition of repentance is to never go back to the sin.

In your case, you have met to both of the above and InshaAllah Allah has forgiven you. Since, it’s something that you have already rectified in yourself then it s something that’s gone and it should be keep that way. No one needs to know and you aren’t obliged to share it with your wife either. More so, if it means to break the love and trust in your life.

I Pray that we are all able to cherish our blessings in the right way,