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Is Allah testing my patience that if I believe in him or not, by taking him away?


Assalam O Alaikum! I was so close with a boy(nothing haram) we were good friends and I had feelings for him and it seemed he had feelings for me too. I started to pray Tahajjud to get him I prayed to Allah cried to Allah and asked Allah to grant that person to me make him good for me, I continuously asked Allah in every prayer. But as I started to pray he got away from me suddenly, we got farther and farer but I still love him, I love him more now. It seems like when i started to pray Allah took him away from me despite me praying hard and asking Allah to make him good for me even if he is not. My question is, Allah took him away because Allah does not want him to be mine or Allah is testing my patience that if I believe in him or not? I have heard that if we pray for something Allah has guided our heart to do so? I have strong faith in supplications. How can my suppilications not be answered?


Salaamun alaykum
Thank you for your question .
وَقَالَ رَبُّكُمُ ادْعُونِي أَسْتَجِبْ لَكُمْ

Your Lord has said, ‘Call Me, and I will hear you! (Sura Ghafir:60)
Allah (swt) has opened the door of supplication for us so that we can have a bonding and connection with our Lord and get closer to Him. It is a source of spiritual upliftment.
Dua is asking for whatever is good for you. Allah in the above verse has promised an immediate answer for any dua; and He never breaks His promises. But because we are asking Him for what is best for us, then our duas might not always be accepted in the form we are expecting.
Sometimes He does not accept that particular dua because it is not good for us even though we might think it is good for us, sometimes He wants to give us the reward in the hereafter.
It is mentioned in a hadith, that sometimes Allah delays answering a supplication and then shows the reward to His servant in the hereafter. The servant upon seeing the reward, wishes none of his supplications were accepted.
There are times when He likes to hear His servant’s voice and wants His servant to talk to Him. It is an honour for us if our Lord likes to hear our voice.
So never despair of Allah’s mercy if your dua is not accepted. When you supplicate to Him, that means you have trust in Him that He will want the best for you and so you leave your matters in His hands. If things are suppose to work out between the two of you, then Allah will bring you together and if not, then whatever you do will not bring you two together.
You are such a strong believer mashaAllah, do not let the ups and downs of life weaken your faith.
May Allah grant us all what is best for us.

Zahra Davdani.