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Assalam o Alaikum.. Me bht pershan hn apni shadi ko le kr.. mri shadi ko 3 sal ho chuky hn..ye shadi mri khushi se ni hoi.. lkn mene sirf is liye han kr di k shyd isi me Allah ki mrzi hai.. mene nibhany ki boht koshsh ki.. apni trf se jitna ho skta tha kiya.. mra husbnd dsry country me rhty thy.. me cal wegra krti lkn wo bat ni krty thy.. bs keh dety busy hn.. aisy e ahista ahista doori barhti gai.. Lkn mene phr b koshsh ni chori.. hmesha yhi socha k shyd is me e Allah ki mrzi.. Lkn ab mj se brdasht nai hota.. mry dil me unk liye koi feelings nai.. even dil b ni chahta k bat krn.. wo aas paas ho to dil bechain rhta hai, un sy khof sa ata hai.. mra dil krta doo chali jaon kahin..mra ab dil nai manta k usk sath rahon.. uska rawaiya b aisa rha k kbi seedi tra bt nai ki..mene istakhara b kiya kafi dafa.. mje khwb me b ek br aya k mra nikah kisi aur se ho rha hai.. mra ab dil nai manta k unsk sath rahon.. Plz mje btayen me kia krn.. smj nai aa rha kuch b..

A:

Wa alaykum salaam

 
Aapki mushkil sunkar bohot afsos huwa.Allah aapki mushkil asaan karey.
 
Bohot dafa aisa hota hai ke insaan koi kaam bohot khulus aur mehnet se karraha hota hai lekin unka tariqa galat hota hai.
Aapne likha hai ke aapne apni Zindagi ko acha banane ki bohot koshish ki,lekin jo tariqe apnaye hain usme zarur ghor kijiyega aur kisi aalim/psychologist/ache dost se mashwara kijiyega ke jo tariqa apnaya wo galat to nahi tha.
Agar aap mutmain hai ke tamam koshishon ke bad koi tabdili nahi aayi aur apne shauhar ke saath zindagi guzarna bohot mushkil hai to aap hakime shara ya mujtahid ke represantative ki taraf ruju karein iA wo aapke masle ko hal karne me madad karenge.